RELATIONSHIPS:

WHAT ABOUT SEX 2

         A forthnight ago, i posted an article on a very controversial issue in marital relationships- Sex. In that edition, enough emphasis was laid on differrent wrong perceptions that we carry in our minds about this act. Most of these wrong notions were passed to us from the society. Here's more of them to consider;



That Sex is a physical, One-Dimensional Experience.

   Sex is just sex. That’s what our society wants us to believe, anyway. It’s a biological need, they tell us, just like eating, drinking and sleeping. And because sex is just physical, it doesn’t really matter who we’re doing it with as long as everyone consents, right?
Wrong!!. When we see sex as a superficial, one-dimensional part of the human experience, we’ve failed to recognize some of its most valuable components. Sex is
emotional, psychological, mental and spiritual. It influences and impacts us on so many different levels. It’s not just a co mingling of bodies, it’s also a co-mingling of
souls.

       The more we can understand and
appreciate the multi-faceted impact
of sex on every level, the more our
appreciation of this God-given gift
will begin to grow.


  That We Can’t Control Sex, Because it Controls Us;
      
        This is likely the most widely accepted lie perpetuated in our society (both Christian and non-Christian culture alike). It’s the rumor that causes us to believe that we are slaves to our sex drive. It’s a myth that defines us as hormone-driven, sexually-motivated human beings that either need to fill our sexual appetite or completely starve
it, because ultimately, we can’t
control it.
        The saddest part is that there are so
many men and women living their life shaped by this myth. Not believing that they have the God-given power to control their sexual appetite, they remain enslaved to sin, in bondage to lust and susceptible to addiction—which is exactly where the enemy wants us to remain.
But by God’s grace, we have everything we need to take charge of our sexual appetites by disciplining our mind, our heart and
our body. And believe or not, that kind of control is for all of us to apply, no matter our relationship status. Because the very desires we “can’t control” before marriage will be the very desires that haunt us even after.

        It’s time to stand strong against the
lies this culture throws our way, and instead learn to believe in sex as powerful, meaningful, sacrificial and ultimately, controllable. May God give us the wisdom to recognize these lies, the courage to speak out
against them and the strength to choose better for our lives and for our relationships.